Just as a prism refracts light differently when you change its angle, each experience of love illuminates love in new ways, drawing from an infinite palette of patterns and hues.
― Sharon Salzberg, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection
Love would not be so confusing if we saw it as an action rather than an emotion, considering it a simple kindness instead of a contract. Salzberg writes, “Our ability to connect with others is innate, wired into our nervous systems, and we need connection as much as we need physical nourishment.” That's part of the problem - we attempt to seize what we need but don't realize genuine love runs downhill rather than up. It begins by humbly accepting ourselves as we are (realistically seeing our humanness in our assets and liabilities), then extending that to others. From that foundation, we can reach out with wholehearted tenderness instead of trying to grasp or cling to what we think will fill us up. The 16th Hexagram is often titled 'Enthusiasm;' the booklet suggests we "move like a stream, always seeking the simplest course and adapting to the most diverse conditions." No manipulation, intimidation or force to be found here (no selfishness either). It's all downhill, but with the right attitude, it will be a joyful ride.
