I use tarot and oracle cards as tools for reflection and contemplation. Rather than divining the future, they are a way for me to look more deeply at the "now."
"The goal isn't to arrive, but to meander, to saunter, to make your life a holy wandering." ~ Rami Shapiro

Monday, March 21, 2016

Care for the Caretakers

From the Osho Zen Tarot, the Ten of Fire (Wands); from the A'HA Oracle, Indigo:
          This fellow looks like he's been tossed into the bottom of a dry well with electricity crackling all around him. Padma describes him as a man who has "repressed his own vitality trying to meet so many demands and expectations." Indeed, the ropes that bind him have become him; his obligations are who he thinks he is, and how he views his life. I can easily see this man in my husband, as he cares for his mom. His life revolves around managing her finances and her day-to-day care, all of which is complicated by a broken hip and dementia. I was only with her for two hours yesterday before begging the nurse to give her an Ativan. This card could be the poster for all caregivers who are in dire need of care themselves.
          The Indigo card is a perfect illustration for one of the Sabian Symbols (Aquarius 7) : "A child born out of an eggshell." This idea is an obvious encouragement to find a new way of doing things - additional resources, fresh approaches, and added support. However, taking such an active approach often feels like adding more on to the load one already carries. Yet this "child" (if nurtured) could be the answer to providing a firmer foundation to stand on so that dry well can be filled.


  1. Being a caregiver is hard an demanding and often a one way street,which is why can be is so exhausting. Often we our feelings are alternating between love and guilt and the last one is the most depleting one of all
    Give your husband my best wishes!

    1. I know that both you and Sharyn have experience in the hardships of being a caretaker too. Guilt I think is the feeling that makes the load so much heavier. Thank you for your kind thoughts, my friend.