I use tarot and oracle cards as tools for reflection and contemplation. Rather than divining the future, they are a way for me to look more deeply at the "now."
"The goal isn't to arrive, but to meander, to saunter, to make your life a holy wandering." ~ Rami Shapiro

Friday, February 6, 2015

Freedoms of Friendship

From the Deck of the Bastard, the Two of Cups; from the Marseille Oracle, "Fantasy:"
          My mom is coming into town today; I always look forward to her visits and our time together. My relationship with her has changed dramatically from what it was. Growing up, I had to share her with a stepfather and four step brothers and sisters. Between family and a full time teaching job, there wasn't any time left to spend with me. Our interactions were more along the line of "Clean your room and wash your clothes today." I was full of resentment toward her and felt cheated by our lack of relationship. Yet now that I am the mother and the wife, juggling roles and obligations, I understand. She was doing the best she could with what she had. And so the caduceus hovering over the couple in the Two of Cups feels like a relationship that may have scars but is definitely healing. The Fantasy card suggests allowing the imagination to float free. For me, it represents cutting loose the ropes of resentment from the past that held tight my relationship with my mom. It is a visual of the freedom of the friendship that is developing between us.


  1. I am so happy for both of you this relationship is on the mend. THis must have been such a relief. I see in this balloon also the weight which have be taken away from you. Feeling estranged from family members can be so hard, especially when it is you mother
    Have a lovely weekend

    1. We've actually had a good relationship for several years now, but there are still some lingering resentments. It's as if I'm still protecting myself somehow... Those are the last ropes I need to cut! :)

  2. I touching post.

    I'm very, very happy for you and your mother Bev. I lost my mum in 1995. I miss her very much. We loved just hangin' out together. Mother's are a great gift that too often we don't appreciate until they are gone. I hope you let go of those resentments. No good for nothin'!


    1. She is a great blessing in my life. :) Being a mother has made me see just how hard some choices are, and how some mistakes that are made are completely unintentional. It definitely has had the effect of dissolving any lingering resentments.