Look for the Doorway

From the RainShadow Tarot, the Eight of Cups; from the Liminal Spirits Oracle, Time:

It’s in relationships that our unresolved psychological issues show up most intensely. 

~John Welwood

When our relationships get out of balance or when our emotions are jerking us around like a choke chain, we often attempt to deflect or distract ourselves. We might decide to use affirmations, read a self-help book, or go to a wellness seminar. Yet as therapist Mindy Newman explains, what we're really trying to do is avoid looking at the painful emotions we're experiencing in the present and the patterns that have been going on in the past that we're repeating over and over again. Healthy change is going to require some hard, uncomfortable work; we face our suffering and look at its causes and effects without getting entangled in the mental stories around it. Time reminds us that we can't jump ahead to the good part. The inner work progresses at its own pace.

Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.

~Coco Chanel