The silence is the worst part of any fight because it's made up of all the things we wish we could say, if only we had the guts. ― Pete Wentz
The shouting, posturing, and frustration will gradually burn itself out in this card. Peterson suggests that an argument can be like the fury of a thunderstorm, leaving things clear and clean once it has passed. I'm not a fan of yelling or aggression, but talking things out (even when it gets terribly uncomfortable) can create more healing than leaving things unsaid. The double Earth roll of the dice suggests stability, or at the extreme, stubbornness and rigid thinking. In any heated discussion, I need to be aware of what lies beneath my words. Do I believe my words carry more weight than those of anyone else? Do I think I'm entitled to air my opinions and feelings while invalidating another person's? If a dialogue is truly what is sought, then everyone should stand on even ground.
how to communicate effectively should be a class in school. An early class.
ReplyDeleteAmen, my friend.
DeleteSometimes a thought provoking argument can be a good thing.
ReplyDeleteThe right kind of discussion can open minds and hearts.
DeleteHa, I'm sitting here trying to prepare talking points for a meeting on Monday, so this is great food for thought!
ReplyDeleteGetting passionate can set people in their ways even more, rather than firing them up to think differently. Clay hardens, glass melts and molds. One question that arises is, are our attributes fixed, or can they be influenced by the discussion, too...?
I think a lot of it hinges on how we see our ideas. If we see them as Truth, I doubt anything else will find room in our minds. It's like the story of the Zen master over-pouring the tea in the cup to make a point about his student's mind being too full to accept anything else.
DeleteThat's a good point, too. Though if we can persuade someone to pour out a little of what's in their mind to make space for something else... :)
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