Loss and Confrontation

From the Badger's Forest Tarot, the Five of Foxes (Cups); from the Gemstone Oracle, "Picasso Jasper:"

          A fox sniffs where he last left his mate and kits. He had been out looking for food when he heard the dogs and hunters in the forest. Now his family is gone and won't be coming back. Loss in the animal world is so different than in the human one. We have the luxury of grieving our losses, of taking time to honor what was. Animals (though I do think they grieve) have survival wired into their brains. They don't get a chance to sit in a housecoat watching television while eating ice cream for days on end. They must jump back into living life rather quickly. The only times humans replicate this experience is when there has been a natural disaster or when in the middle of an assault or battle.
          The quote and keywords chosen for Picasso jasper are:

Remember, confrontation is about reconciliation and awareness, not judgement or anger.

~ Dale Partridge

conflict (within or external), fear of confrontation, working toward a resolution

When I've lost something or someone I love, my instinctual reaction is to strike back at what or who I believe is the cause. I don't merely want to even the playing field, I seek total annihilation. It's as if I think the pain I wish to cause will somehow wipe out the pain I feel. Yet the Picasso jasper's message suggests that while confrontation could be a sane way to deal with an injustice, harming another (whether physically or through character assassination) won't make things better. That kind of revenge won't change the history of what has happened. But calm confrontation, with information rather than anger exchanged, might help heal my heart.