Found Families

From the Buckland Romani Tarot, the Ten of Koros (Cups); from the Lakota Sweat Lodge Cards, "Inipi:"

          Three generations relax under a willow tree in this card of happiness and joy originating from a sense of belonging and fulfillment. It made me think of one of my daughter's favorite themes in books and shows - "found families." Sometimes called a "family of choice," these groups are built not just because of a common interest, but because they've come to care for and depend on each other. I'm a part of a few small groups like this, and I'm more likely to pour my heart out to them than my biological family. I don't think it really matters which group one's support and love come from as long as it's reciprocal.
          The purpose of the Inipi ceremony (or sweat lodge) is purification and restoration. It also reminds the participants not just of their connection with each other, but all living things, even the elements of the earth. The Ten card added to this one reminds me to let go of my resentments (purification) for those who are incapable of fully accepting and loving me on an unconditional level. Holding them hostage in my heart will harm me much more than them. That rainbow promises me that when I do, I'll begin to notice the treasure of a found family all around me.