I use tarot and oracle cards as tools for reflection and contemplation. Rather than divining the future, they are a way for me to look more deeply at the "now."
"The goal isn't to arrive, but to meander, to saunter, to make your life a holy wandering." ~ Rami Shapiro

Thursday, August 11, 2016

Flexible Friendships

From the Gaian Tarot, the Two of Cups; from the Goddess Oracle, Vila:
          I've always had pets, because I enjoy the unconditional love they offer in a relationship. Human companionship, however, is a bit more difficult. Often we come into a relationship with an expectation of what we think we're going to get out of it, not what we're going to bring to it. But good friends aren't just those who tell us what we want to hear and go along with whatever we want to do, but those folks who can tell us with gentle honesty what we need to know and push us beyond our comfortable cocoons. I need to be able to look outside my own personal interests and opinions, which can be helped along by having friends. Vila is a Eastern European nature spirit whose energy moves through the earth in various forms:
I am flexibility
for by changing my form
I freely flow with whatever comes my way.
How many friendships are lost because we have expectations built around them? If someone changes their belief system or priorities, does that mean I have to drop them? Not if they are comfortable allowing me to maintain my own values without judgment. And by sticking with them (being flexible and open in my thinking), I might just gain a deeper understanding of what is important to them and why. If I can accept them without prejudice, I might learn to see the world through a wider lens.


  1. unrealistic expectations.
    One of the many reasons our five nieces and nephews have our will as an open book.
    Something I ran into often when I was parting out personal estates on ebay. But this collector plate was $200.00! There is one born every minute.

    1. Anne Lamott said an expectation was just a resentment under construction. She wasn't kidding!

  2. Friendship without expectations from either side. I think that's called Love :)