Big Personalities

From the Dark Goddess Tarot, the Five of Fire (Wands); from the Tattwas Cards, 'Water - Seed of Earth:'

          Eris, the goddess of conflict and strife, reminds me of 'big personalities.' These folks are outgoing, opinionated, and loud; they don't intend to be the center of attention, but they're hard to overlook. They have few filters, so whatever passes through their mind comes out in sometimes inappropriate questions or statements. But the reason big personalities annoy people the most is that they have an uncanny way of revealing our blind spots in flashing neon colors. We can't beat them or ignore them, but we can mirror for them what is appropriate: softer tones, respectful language, and active listening skills. And we might learn some helpful information about ourselves. The Water: Seed of Earth card is associated with alliances, finding people who support your cause or goal. In the situation of the Five of Wands, if the intention is to gang up on the big personality, things are liable to go poorly. But if there is group mirroring of what is expected, the room might start feeling a little more spacious.