A Web of Hearts

From the Golden Tarot, the Ten of Cups; from the Yantra Deck, 'Compassion:'

We find rest in those we love, and we provide a resting place for those who love us.

 — Bernard of Clairvaux

          Families, 'found families,' and intimate groups provide us with opportunities to learn how to love, forgive and provide a cushion for each other. Harmony and contentment doesn't arrive in an Amazon box; we must painstakingly create them. These groups are the crucible, and through them we forge a sense of belonging and shape a sacred place for our emotions. When we feel we have a connection of kindness and safety, we are more likely to reach out to others (sensing that our heart is 'tethered'). Compassion suggests moving toward those who suffer with a desire to help. I just finished reading A Man Called Ove, a novel about a crusty curmudgeon who had recently lost his one love, his wife. The loss shuttered his heart, and he became a nasty piece of work. But a neighbor (very pregnant with two kids and a husband) persisted in reaching out to him, ignoring his cold demeanor. She continued to involve him with other neighbors (refusing to take 'no' for an answer) and helped him to find a purpose for living again. By the end of the book, his new 'family' had thawed his heart. Even in real life, our loving relationships can encourage us to love even more.