The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection, and that one is prepared, in the end, to be defeated, and broken up by life, which is the inevitable price of fastening one’s love upon other human individuals. ~ George Orwell
I know that people are imperfect, yet I still slip into making assumptions and having expectations about them. There was the friend who was so full of enthusiasm for life yet was secretly cheating on his wife. There was the spiritual leader who let slip a racial slur. There was the boss who praised hard work but never gave a raise. Disappointment comes in many guises and may feel like an icy-cold shock or a slow-sinking dread. A feeling of loss and sadness (and perhaps anger as well) permeates everything. In this version of the Five of Cups, the two whole bowls stay anchored in the mind while the other three are cut loose. It reminds me to keep my mind focused on what is good while realizing that everyone (including me) has both positive and negative traits. The Woodcutter from the Mah Jongg deck chops wood that may be used in building or to warm his home. But effort must come before the enjoyment. The same is true of dealing with emotional loss in that I must work to make room to process the hurt while not shutting out the sunlight at the same time.
Mah Jongg oracle. Lovely deck. I spent three days with a client in a hospital room, using these cards, laying spreads out on the bed blanket.
ReplyDeletecouldn't bear the look at them afterwards.
Strange how unrelated things can suddenly become intensely associated by an emotional event.
DeleteThose bowls in the Five of Cups reminds of a Thomas Edison quote, "I didn't fail, I found 2000 ways that the lightbulb didn't work and one that did"
ReplyDeleteI guess we have to figure out that with relationships too.
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