Feeling not Feeding

 From the Spiral Tarot, the Queen of Cups; from the Spiral Journey Cards, Believe:

          No matter how stoic someone might try to appear, they might as well be an open book when it comes to the Queen of Cups reading their feelings. She advises: "You don't have to feed your feelings, but you do need to feel them." For those of us brought up to hide any signs of vulnerability, this may be a tall order. However, the Believe card encourages us not to rigidly hold onto our ideas but to make space for other possibilities. I was on Zoom with some friends last night and we were discussing koans (koe-ahns), a tool that can shake us loose from our normal biases so that we see from a larger perspective. Koans don't offer a solution but a way to see a situation from other angles. I think the Queen would appreciate some personal ones we talked about using: "Perhaps there is a better way;" "Are you sure?;" "Thinking it doesn't require believing it."