Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. ~Carl Jung
Monday, November 25, 2019
Shadow Side of Nostalgia
From the Osho Zen Tarot, the Six of Cups; from the A'HA Oracle, Shadow:
Give my brain a few moments of intense pleasure, and that experience will be filed away for life. Then when I'm annoyed with my current partner, I'll pull up a memory of a beau from the past and think, "Now that's the way life should be." The problem is, I conveniently forget the other one thousand ways the guy from the past was a jerk. Nostalgia can be an enjoyable activity as long as it doesn't keep me from living in the present. The Shadow card suggests I look at the parts of my personality of which I might be ashamed or afraid. My shadow shows itself in my interactions and relationships with others; what frustrates and annoys me about others is likely a denied trait or mindset I have myself. Yet when I acknowledge and accept it, I can better understand and accept that same side in others. Then I won't have to go fishing in the past to find something more palatable than the present.
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oh my gosh, I'm so glad I didn't actually marry the three most serious contenders. 2 turned out to be wife beaters, putting both women in hospital, and the other was a serial monkeyarounder.
ReplyDeleteI think we must have visited the same neighborhoods in our youthful romantic pursuits!
DeleteSometimes when I reflect on a possible past relationship, and wonder what if; I take time with my niece and nephew and know my choice was the right one. Those 2 really are some of the loves of my life.
ReplyDeleteYour niece and nephew are very lucky to have you for their aunt!
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