Nowhere Else to Go

From the Tarot of the Crone, Death; from the Transforming Dragons deck, Zorradion:

There is nowhere else to go

Something has to change

And that something is you

~Ellen Lorenzi-Prince

Accepting a loss means we must be wiling to deal with grief and the emptiness it brings. While that doesn't seem that doesn't seem very comforting, the alternative (in Lorenzi-Prince's words) is much worse: "Deny what is passing, and you may never be free, dragging a corpse along with you into your future." And it gets heavier to pull each passing day. Zorradion is connected to spite, things done with a desire to offend or hurt someone. In other words, we become the pebble in someone's shoe. Why do we react like this after a loss? We take out our anger and heartache on those who won't likely to counter attack us, using them as the dumping site for the pain we don't want to acknowledge. Spite can only be transformed through tenderness, first toward ourselves, and then toward others.

You don't blast a heart open. You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.

― Melody Beattie