Your Own Agent

 From the Tarot of Durer, the King of Chalices; from the Philosopher's Stone, Composure:

This is an interesting King of Cups; he sits in the middle of the ocean, but he doesn't allow his feet or robes to get wet. While he may feel a duty to help with the emotional well-being of those in his kingdom, he knows how easy it is to be sucked into another person's drama and drown in it. Thus he's well-skilled in the art of nonjudgmental detachment - keeping his heart open without taking on the other person's responsibility. Yet the Composure card is what may be needed when a person demands we fix their problems for them, calling us uncaring or worse. The wise King would likely offer them a version of Ethan Nichtern's words: "Nobody can get into the heart of your experience and fix anything for you. If you want to make your own internal experience more hospitable, only you can do that work. Others can always support and guide you and spark insights, but ultimately you are your own boss and the agent of understanding your mind and opening your heart."