A Feminine Touch

From the Bonefire Tarot, the Five of Wands; from the Day of the Dead Lenormand, the 'Woman:'

          The Five of Wands is about competitive squabbling in which people have different ideas about how things should be done. Notice the conkers (a children's toy) in the middle of the drawing; this debate is not meant to be taken personally. It is simply a way to see the strong and weak sides of each argument. When disagreements make us feel we are being criticized or attacked (rather than our viewpoint), it's time to remember the words of Elizabeth Thornton: "If we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit that sometimes our assumptions and preconceived notions are wrong, and therefore, our interpretation of events is incorrect. This causes us to overreact, to take things personally, or to judge people unfairly." The Woman from the Lenormand deck represents the feminine archetype - receptive rather than closed-minded, inclusive rather than exclusive, and cooperative rather than aggressive. What a difference her mindset can make in any heated discussion, especially since she would plow calmly ahead and refuse to escalate any heated argument.