Detachment with Connection

From the Tarrochi Celtici, the Five of Air; from the Art of Asia Oracle, Fang Chuxiong's "Monkeys Grooming:"

          One pixie, dressed as a raven, flies over another who is napping rather than working. The raven pixie is probably aggravated that his buddy is napping and making music rather than shoes. Although he might scare him enough to get back to work, it's doubtful that it will have more than a limited effect on the lazy pixie. People who haven't learned how to maturely communicate their needs to others will try to control/manipulate, people-please or withdraw/stonewall to get their way. Yet Chuxiong's artwork shows another approach, along with the paired quote from Stanley Kunitz: "Touch me, remind me who I am." Through compassion, we can realize that others will not always agree with us because we are different; we can be detached from a person's opinions while still being connected to the person. People don't do things because of who I am but because of who they are. Not taking things personally may offer an opening for discussion.